The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man's Quest to Be a Better Husband by David Finch
At some point in nearly every marriage, a wife finds herself asking,
What the @#!% is wrong with my husband?! In David Finch’s case, this
turns out to be an apt question. Five years after he married Kristen,
the love of his life, they learn that he has Asperger syndrome. The
diagnosis explains David’s ever-growing list of quirks and compulsions,
his lifelong propensity to quack and otherwise melt down in social
exchanges, and his clinical-strength inflexibility. But it doesn’t make
him any easier to live with.
Determined to change, David sets out to
understand Asperger syndrome and learn to be a better husband— no easy
task for a guy whose inability to express himself rivals his
two-year-old daughter’s, who thinks his responsibility for laundry
extends no further than throwing things in (or at) the hamper, and whose
autism-spectrum condition makes seeing his wife’s point of view a near
impossibility.
Nevertheless, David devotes himself to improving
his marriage with an endearing yet hilarious zeal that involves
excessive note-taking, performance reviews, and most of all, the Journal
of Best Practices: a collection of hundreds of maxims and hard-won
epiphanies that result from self-reflection both comic and painful. They
include “Don’t change the radio station when she’s singing along,”
“Apologies do not count when you shout them,” and “Be her friend, first
and always.” Guided by the Journal of Best Practices, David transforms
himself over the course of two years from the world’s most trying
husband to the husband who tries the hardest, the husband he’d always
meant to be.
Filled with humor and surprising wisdom,
The Journal of Best Practices is
a candid story of ruthless self-improvement, a unique window into
living with an autism-spectrum condition, and proof that a true heart
can conquer all.